Updated: Jan 11, 2021
"Too many times we let others dictate how our lives should carry through and we lose the abilty to have independent thinking. This is why most people are followers. They spend their whole lives looking for the acceptance of others when they should be accepting themlseves." - Cristian Gray
To maximize your profession, you mustn't unconsciously allow others to control it for you. Too often students fresh out of college tend to get into big-time corporate jobs attempting to make a name of themselves. Regrettably, they learn too late how they limited the career potential due to ignorance and fear of failure. Even then, they get out into the real world trying to cram everything in before the age of thirty-five only to lose it all at a moment's notice. In other words, they try to get the car, executive title, house, and graduate degrees prematurely and shoot themselves in the foot in the long run only to start over again. Be mindful of your career performance from the start, or once you come to your senses, so you can control the variables that will accelerate the true goals your wish to achieve.
You Don't Know What You Don't Know
Back in Fall 2017, I tried to follow mainstream America so I could prove I was better than everyone when really, I looked like a complete asshole. Seriously! I thought that with less than 5 years of professional work history, a university apprenticeship, and a Master's degree at the age of 23, I would somehow make people roll out the red carpet for me. I was dead-fucking wrong.
I was a dick to people, and it was part of my immediate failure, but I also lacked true career confidence. My rude, arrogant behavior toward people was the result of not believing in my abilities to do my job and I didn't want them to know that. So, I would wear fancy Italian shoes, silk power ties, and speak with eloquence to make up for it. Once I left university and entered the real world, that facade came to light quickly.
In February 2018, I earned an opportunity to be a recruiter for a home staffing agency. And thinking I could carry the same mannerisms and work ethic into that position, I roughly discovered I couldn't. I couldn't postpone my work until the last minute and paying attention to detail was vital for producing optimal results. I consistently fell short of filling vacancies, making sense of the business's operations, and living happily outside of work. With no career support from my colleagues or asshole of a"mentor," I became another miserable corporate worker bee.
The job itself required 24/7 attendance to meet client needs. Because it was a home staffing agency for terminally ill children, we were required to rotate an after-hours on-call phone to ensure we recruiters could fill-in an open shift. It did not matter if the call-out was at 4 a.m., the on-call recruiter had to fill in that shift or they would get an ass-chewing from the account manager, a potential write-up, and a pissed off parent telling them how worthless they are. It goes without saying I hated that job but I desperately clung to it due to fear of failure and no control over my path.
No Career Control & Support Means Inevitable Failure
In the beginning, behind all the uncontrolled mania, I sincerely believed I could excel faster than anyone in that company from recruiter to account manager after a few months working there and earning my master's degree. That did not work one goddamn but obviously, not due to the education and experience but because I fucking deserved it. At some point, I even spoke to the COO about my struggle being a recruiter pleading if I could move to his corporate office as admin. support. Even with a graduate-level employee training program in hand, he shut down my request stating, "You just don't have that opportunity right now." And just like that, my chances of becoming an account manager for one of their new office locations were gone with the wind.
Don't get me wrong, I know being a pompous jerk to people was unjustified and this rejection was a taste of my own medicine, but fuck me did it tore my sentiment apart and question my abilities as a business administrator. Needless to say, experiencing that rejection while pleading to control my career path was revolutionary.
In short, instead of starting something of my own, I relied on the people of that company to expedite my career for me. I shouldn't have done that but simply put I didn't know what I didn't know. Let alone I was not a good fit in that job. It's much easier to read about running a business than actually running it. After leaving the company in May of 2018, I grasped a solid understanding of how relationship boundaries and expectations from people should be established for optimal career performance. Some people may enjoy working around the clock because they're workaholics, but I am not like those people. Instead, I like to take time off and enjoy my rest with family or even take a sporadic trip to the backwoods so I can shut the world off. That company required their new employees to wait about 180 days, from what I can remember before they good get paid-time-off.
On top of the absent time to convalesce from work, there was no career support. Working alongside 2 other recruiters, they were usually out for themselves to fill-in their shifts so sharing nurses or stealing a nurse I recruited was kind of a norm. Plus, team-building or developing solid relationships with coworkers was non-existent. For the most part, you would clock in, do your job, and clock out.
Nonetheless, aside from all the bullshit and ass-chewings, I could say the most important lesson acquired from that hell hole was realizing I had the power to leave at any time, but I let fear consume me. Don't let the fear of losing a job that puts food on the table be a reason you sacrifice your dignity. It makes no difference if you're an employee or independent contractor, establish your boundaries with people, manage expectations, and take the potential of your career into your own hands. To learn more about career control, you can check my e-book out on Amazon using the link here.
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