Updated: Sep 21, 2020
“I need you. Let me do this. I can make you forget him. I can make you forget you.” Kellan Kyle, Thoughtless
Synopsis: For almost two years now, Kiera's boyfriend, Denny, has been everything she's ever wanted: loving, tender, and endlessly devoted to her.
When they head off to a new city to start their lives together, Denny at his dream job and Kiera at a top-notch university, everything seems perfect.
Then an unforeseen obligation forces the happy couple apart. Feeling lonely, confused, and in need of comfort, Kiera turns to an unexpected source - a local rock star named Kellan Kyle.
At first, he's purely a friend that she can lean on, but as her loneliness grows, so does their relationship. And then one night everything changes . . . and one thing's for sure - nothing will ever be the same.
Review: Ever since the Fifty Shades of Grey series were brought into the cinema light, the contemporary romance genre turned into a booming category in the book industry. Men and women are currently experimenting with the BDSM lifestyle since the erotic phenomenon flourished... however, most experimenters have yet to set down the necessary foundations to make their relationship prevail, let alone a BDSM one.
Babeland, a popular New York City-based sex toy company said there was a nearly 40 percent increase in sales for their BDSM products back in 2015.
In 2013, there was a high percentage of "women seeking BDSM relationships (96.2 percent more) after the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy” according to Cosmopolitan.
Fifty Shades changed the sex-game substantially! Quite frankly, society has transitioned the dating game into an instant gratification process where the efforts of single men and women to come together rely on a simple swipe or direct message. People want to instantly fulfill their fantasies yet, they skip building a solid foundation of trust.
Granted, people are losing sight of creating a valuable connection with one another and truly appreciate their worth. After reading Thoughtless by S.C. Stephens, it’s come to the conclusion that falling in love is not hopeless, but there may come consequences if certain boundaries or acknowledgments are not proactively addressed.
Any relationship you get into, personal, or business, there needs to be boundaries set in place. One must be able to feel like they know, like, and trust the other person in order to maintain confidence in the relationship.
The word confidence can be broken down into two meanings which are a secret or private matter told to someone under a condition of trust, or feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities ... but how one develops confidence is the real question.
In brief, to confide in someone or have confidence in oneself can only occur if there are two people in the relationship that can value and respect the other person's worth.
Reading Thoughtless was more of a wake-up call of why people cheat on one another, but in this review, we are going to narrow it down to women only because the book itself revolves around a female character. Although the reasons why people cheat on each other vary, women tend to cheat on their other half for 3 reasons based on this storyline.
1) No Close Proximity
A relationship is between two people; people need to be close to each other for maintenance. Not just physically, but emotionally as well. In today’s dating world, people are under the impression that long-distance relationships can work. Can they? Yes and no. Is it worth a try? Yes and no. Should the worst be prepped for if one partner becomes infidel? Absolutely yes!
The story goes that Kiera, the main character, lost an intimate connection with her boyfriend, Denny, as the plot trails on. Her boyfriend was on a career path that could possibly set Kiera and him for a successful future, but the two were not seeing eye to eye.
By default, Denny wants to be able to earn a good paying job so he can provide for Kiera, but Kiera wasn’t worrying too much about finances as she was about being close to her boyfriend. Even though they had their routine phone calls, things became predictable and communication became more of a chore rather than a grateful opportunity.
In order for a relationship to work, there needs to be intimate proximity. Although communication works, it can only take people so far until people start craving for human touch.
Researchers state that being in a long-distance relationship doesn't exclusively guarantee it will work since more than half of these relationships eventually crumble. Yes, partners will value the communication they have with one another, and probably cherish the time spent, but the consensus is both partners have to be present for the long run.
2) Lack of Consistent Romance
With no intimate proximity, there is a result of no sex. Sex is necessary because it feels good and... because it just is. However, sex is just one key aspect of a prospering, romantic relationship.
Romance happens when there are intentional, purposeful things done for each partner that make sex even greater because there is so much appreciation between the two.
Romance is when date-nights are mandatory for the relationship so each person knows they're still in it together.
Romance is when one person hits a very vulnerable point in their life and the other response with "We will get through this together - what do you need from me?”
Romance happens when there is confidence between both parties and are there for physically there for one another.
3) A Communication Fallout
How do people get shit done? Communication... it's vital to any relationship because it's how we deliver the message across. Why do people get divorced? Lack of appreciation, trust, and communication.
One of the main problems Kiera and her boyfriend Denny had was the consistency of no communication. Tie in the lack of intimacy and non-existing romance, that will drive any one person to start looking elsewhere for affection. With Kellan, the other guy, being readily available with very profound feelings for Kiera, the climax was nothing more than a bullet in the chamber with the trigger waiting to be pulled.
The read is gut-wrenching and full of suspense. It's full of twists and turns, but one of the main takeaways from this read is the length. It's a little bit too long and Kiera's love for the two men is like that of a Twilight novel. Just make a fucking decision already!
The development of the characters is a bit askew but in a good way. The manner in which Stephens evolved Kiera's character is remarkable. It's so well crafted that she created 3 more novels in the same series, but where the action lies is how Stephens was able to give just enough about the other guy, Kellan.
Consider this a read you have to indulge yourself in, but the anticipation and anxiety of trying to understand why Kellan acts the way he does is driven into a spinoff book, Thoughtful, using his point-of-view.
To Your Relationships,
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